09 June 2015

Job Application

Apparently it's no longer mandatory to state your age in job applications. Still, you don't have to be Sherlock Holmes (in any of his current high-rating incarnations) to work out my general vintage, given my CV. I suspect employers worship at the altar of youth, though it's the middle aged who have experience and the type of reliability that predates sickies taken via text messaging.
I have skills enough to cover two people - degrees in graphic design and writing. But my confidence is not exactly soaring. It's been several years since I worked in an office or studio. Though I have not been idle. I have been freelancing: interviewing and writing editorials for various clients, and winning awards, like the Lord Mayor's Creative Writing Award, in the eBook category, for "What She Said - a month in a decade in a lifetime". The book is based on the halcyon days of this blog, when I wrote daily and was getting 10,000 hits a month.
I have also had a hold-in-your-hand, paperback, book published, which was shortlisted for the NSW Premier's Literary Awards in 2013 (multicultural category).
These days I am conducting research for a novel, a long-term project. But I'm getting tired of my own company and my own, individual concerns. I need to get out into the world, to meet people and be involved in projects outside of my personal experience.
I would love to talk to you about working for your agency. I believe I have a lot to offer. I am full of ideas and enthusiasm - especially for a not-quite-young person :-)

Content is King, they say. Some links for your perusal:

01 May 2015

My Wedding Day

1 May, 1999
I awake in my old room in E.B. on my old futon and stranger still, mum enters and kisses me on the forehead.
I shower quickly in their pressure-challenged unit and slip into comfortable clothes. No breakfast, no time. Christina picks me up at 7.30. We drive into the city, recalling her wedding day a year ago.
Christina is first. Darren cuts her hair short - as asked; it's a big change that leaves her speechless (quite a feat). Her hair piece, that I've borrowed, sits in a glass cabinet, rollers in, awaiting its attachment to the top of my head - like a patient pet.
My hair and my borrowed hair goes up quickly and easily. Darren does a great job and I look glamorous from the ears up. Below the neck I'm wearing a flannelette shirt and Levis cords.
We go for brunch at Degraves and I think of Craig. I've been thinking of him all day - tonight be will be my husband, not just my Hon. Christina and I both order eggs and I have a coffee - a meal that is to last me all day.
We arrive back in E.B. in time for lunch. Mick comes over and I ask after Craig. The two of them picked up the cake and delivered our bags to our hotel while I was getting my hair done. The others eat; I manage a cup of tea. Ingo drops off my beautiful purple flowers.
Christina and I adjourn to the bathroom to do our make-up, then we dress. I put on new jewellery, slip into firm underwear and tuck the hankie Brenda sent me into my bra (something borrowed). I look like a bride!
Suddenly the house is full of people and I emerge from the back of the house to oo-ing and ah-ing. I look good. I pin flowers onto relatives and we take photos by the lemon tree. Everyone is looking at me - I'm the nifi, the bride.
Then Warwick's car pulls up with Craig at the back. He is wearing a hat, his new pinstripe suit and a purple and gold tie. He looks adorable - quite 40s - it's all very exciting. Dad gets into the front seat, Craig and I get into the back and we're off.
Inside the Royal Mint building (now the Hellenic Museum) we're briefed by Rhonda our celebrant. We call in our witnesses - Shaun and Christina, and run through the ceremony. Afterwards people file in and continue to file in. The room is bulging. People catch my eye and smile - Petrina, Nag, Lou.
The ceremony begins and ends - it is brief but intense, condensed to the essential. We sign our marriage certificate - we're married!!! People cheer and file past to congratulate us - it's overwhelming...we head for the Block Arcade...magical. What a backdrop! The band set up in the domed area, where circular Greek dancing mirrors the shape of the space. It is so great to see so many friends - Brenda, Rex, Cath, Kieran and later Paul and Cate. The old faithfuls Cheryl, Peter, Andrea, Adrian, Petrina; the Haigs, the Gullys, Mark M. Also Jenny, Bethany, cousins, aunts and uncles.
I dance Greek with everyone and waltz with Craig, later Dad and even Thio Yianni. People chat and mingle. We cut the cake - it looks stunning, and I make a short and sweet speech.
A few tears with Mum, Dad and Christina as we say our good-byes. Everyone cheers as we dash off. Outside darling Warwick is waiting. It's only a short ride to the Magnolia Court Hotel in East Melbourne. Our suite looks great. I have a cup of tea and biscuits. I haven't eaten all day.
If you'd like to read what happens next - not what you might expect - follow this link.

05 March 2015

Where are you really from?

Photo Yaocheng Lee from http://www.meldmagazine.com.au
A strange thing happened recently when I found myself on the other side of Melbourne, walking through Footscray Mall in Melbourne's West. I live East, but I may as well have been visiting from Sweden or Finland for how whitey-white-white I felt.
Large African men sat at cafes with names like Harambe and Queen of Sheba. Beautiful dark skinned women wearing colourful fabrics sashayed past me—eyes bright, skin shinning. Two steps later and I was in Vietnam. Here were stores selling unfamiliar food stuff, phone cards and Hello Kitty knock-offs. Hand written signs were everywhere, in a language I recognise but cannot read. It was all rather exotic and exciting, though also somewhat unsettling. The area made me feel like part of the establishment—an uncomfortable feeling for a child of immigrants who grew up feeling like "the other".
I grew up in a series of rented rooms in the inner suburbs, in terrace houses accommodating several families. We all shared one bathroom and one kitchen. Fifty years ago there were no three hat restaurants or trendy cafes in Richmond, Collingwood or Fitzroy. The residents were mostly working class migrants. Money was tight. Eating out was hardly an option. My father and men like him worked double shifts in factories like General Motors Holden in Port Melbourne, after which they waited for the first trams to start running, so they could get home. My mother worked in a series of low paid jobs then came home to clean and cook and do the washing—all by hand. We had no washing machine, no vacuum cleaner or any other labour saving appliances.
When I was almost three years old, my parents bought a semi-detached house in Thornbury, in Melbourne's North. I still remember the excitement of the day our first refrigerator was delivered. Later still we got a car, an Electrolux vacuum cleaner and a Sunbeam toaster; but we never had an indoor toilet or a telephone. These luxuries became available when we moved in the mid 70s, when I was almost 14, to a brand new, off the plan, brick, free standing home with a car port.
A few years later, thanks to the Whitlam Labour Government, I was able to go to university. Afterwards I travelled to Europe. I visited London, Paris, Rome, as well as my parents' homeland and eventually settled back in Melbourne into a professional career. My parents dreamed that their children would get office jobs, and not have to stand up all day in a factory with a foreman (or woman) yelling at them to work faster. They hoped we would be able to earn our living in a clean workplace, without the dirt and grease and smell of manufacturing.
So here I am now—a writer and graphic designer who lives in a beautiful period home in a leafy suburb: a member of the middle class. It astounds me to think that more recent immigrants might see me as no different to people with surnames like Jones, Bradford or White; though I suppose that that is essentially what I am.
In the Mall in the heart of Footscray I have an urge to pull people aside and say, "My parents were just like you; and one day your children may be just like me." As little as thirty years ago, people from Southern Europe were viewed as being just as different and foreign as people from Asia and Africa are viewed today; and I don't believe for a minute that anyone thought us in any way exotic. Back then there were no anti vilification laws (another thing we can thank Gough Whitlam for). My parents would turning up to places to apply for work and be told, "Go back to where you came from you bloody wog!"
Only 15 or so years ago my sister and I went to Tasmania for a week's holiday. In a gift shop just outside Hobart we were asked, "Where are you from?"
The answer, "Melbourne" didn't seem to sit right with the woman behind the counter.
"No, where are you really from?"

Sometimes, I wonder.

13 February 2015

In Honour of Valentines Day

Sometimes the whole is greater than its separate parts. As I am such a huge music fan, let me illustrate this with Morrissey and Marr. Together in The Smiths they produced a combination of music and lyrics that touches the soul, engages the mind and is great to dance to. Separately? Sorry, but just OK. There are endless examples: Dean and Jerry, Lennon and McCartney (even if they wrote separately within the Beatles, the Beatles stuff is better than the solo stuff – I think) and any good marriage or partnership.

I think the right partner makes you a better person and helps you reach your full potential. Without Craig, becoming the writer I want to be would be ten times harder. He is supportive and encouraging in every way. In turn, I think I’ve added some fun and adventure to his life. For someone inherently risk-averse, I've contributed a sense of unpredictability - though it drives him crazy, at times. Together too, we become three, when our gorgeous daughter was born. Sum. Parts. Greater.

Oh, and I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – no one makes me laugh as much as my husband. Craig – I think you’re ace!

24 January 2015

Happy Australia Day Book Giveaway Blog Hop!

I have been like a neglectful parent, a lazy pet owner, a gardener who fails to water their plants - I have been an absent blogger! After three years of daily blogging, I suppose it can happen to anyone, even someone who thinks they have a lot to say. But I'm back thanks to Shelleyrae and her annual blog hop at Book'd Out. Follow the link to check out the other wonderful blogs that are also participating. Today I thought I'd follow a theme from my 2012 Australia Day post 10 Great Australian Songs with 10 Great Australian Books (fiction & non-fiction) - and for the Giveaway part, leave a comment and you'll be in the running to win a copy of my book, "All Windows Open & Other Stories" which was shortlisted for the NSW Premier's Literary Award for best multicultural book. 

Night Letters by Robert Dessaix. A brilliant book - loved it. Set in Venice (mostly) as well as Melbourne. I love the themes he explores - love, travel and death. Perhaps I should say that I'm absorbed by that last one, rather than in love with it. Delightful. Beautiful to read.

Time Without Clocks by Joan Lindsay. An account of the life of the author and her husband Daryl Lindsay, including time in London as well as Melbourne. Beautifully written and very evocative. Full of interesting characters.

Joe Cinque's Consolation by Helen Garner. Brilliant, gripping and very moving. This non-fiction story is a well-crafted read. The story of a murder, covering themes of sanity, remorse (or lack of) and the law.

The Mask of Motherhood by Susan Maushart. Totally got into this book (non-fiction) which covers issues relating to the traumatic (certainly in my case) transition to motherhood - the great divide. More scholarly than populist.

Queen Kat, Carmel and St Jude get a life by Maureen McCarthy. Three young adult protagonists (girls) all grow and change. Really good.

Looking for Alibrandi by Melina Marchette. Funny and warm novel that captures the second generation migrant experience. It's no wonder this book was a big success.

Sunnyside by Joanna Murray-Smith. A tale of suburban/peninsula Melbourne. Families, kids, affairs and middle age - my stage of life!

The Fig Tree by Arnold Zable. About the author's Jewish family and his wife's Greek family. About place and nostalgia. Really enjoyed it.

Reunion by Andrea Goldsmith. Sped through this book. The main characters are all my age and live in Melbourne! The themes of friendship, life choices, morality, love and obsession are ones that interest me.

All That I Am by Anna Funder. A fascinating novel, and very well researched account of Nazi resistance. Quite moving at the end.

19 December 2014

Less than a week until Christmas!

Hello to any last minute shoppers. Yesterday I had a "sale" on for my book and completely forgot to mention it here on my blog. That's how absent and remiss I have become. So today, for my blog readers this amazing [ :-) ] offer has been extended. My book "All Windows Open" is available through my website for only $15 - this includes free shipping anywhere in Australia.

14 December 2014

My Tribe

My Tribe 1980
My tribe worships at the alter of music. For us, going to gigs is a sacred ritual. We think nothing of seeing the same band, playing the same set, five or even ten nights in a row. A trip interstate to see a favourite band is de rigueur, regional gigs are a given. We listen to walkmen while the rest of society find portable music slightly strange and something only Japanese people do. We wear black every day, the only other tribe that does so, are Southern European widows. Our footwear is as heavy as our eyeliner. We read Juke and RAM from cover to cover. We splurged on air freight copies of The Face and hoard copies of Smash Hits and NME. The gig guide is our bible.

My Tribe 1990
Over time, the line ups have altered and the bands have changed, but the friendships have continued. Few of us have married, like nuns and monks we generally shun the pleasures of mortal flesh, focusing on fantasies of intimacy with our idols.
Although technically we are grown-ups, earning our own money, we’ve never lost the thrill of getting into a gig for free. The guest list is our holy grail. We hang out with touring bands after concerts, getting into clubs for free, scoring cocktails on their drinks cards. Occasionally, to recapture the thrill of youth we hitch hike home after public transport stops, rush through back stage doors before we can be stopped, crawl over beer garden fences, forge inky stamps on our light-deprived skin. We scream and sing along with those much younger than us, sandwiched between sweaty flannel clad bodies. These are our magic moments.

My Tribe 2000
Now I have other friends, people I’ve met through work or travel, but they will never be a part of my tribe, just as I can never, fully, be a part of theirs. Even so, my tribe has become fragmented. Some of us have partnered, ‘though none of us have children. We are like Peter Pan’s lost boys, refusing to grow up. We all have the need to be free to fly; to an interstate gig, or to follow a singer to the ends of the earth. One of our number travels to Europe and all around Australia with his favourites from twenty years ago. We all understand the compulsion. Another of our tribe has moved up north, but knows there is a room or at least a bed available at any of our homes, when a single gig of a touring band is not enough, and tickets for Melbourne must also be procured.

My Tribe 2010
Everyone wears black and carries portable music devices now, but they are not necessarily a part of my tribe. Still, my tribe has expanded and includes people I have never met face to face. Technology has altered the nature of friendship, and we can now find like-minded people living across the globe.
I am also in another tribe now, the fiercest tribe of all – a lioness pride of mothers.
Although I love hearing from my new tribe, there is a special place for the tribe of my youth, that has seen me cry and laugh and scream. I feel very lucky to still have these people in my life. You know who you are. xxx